tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15519265.post8766792560158513931..comments2021-08-31T06:48:56.237-04:00Comments on Kellie's Journey...: I think there's a storm brewing...Kelliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04927541402025223415noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15519265.post-69009377199861968772008-12-10T10:04:00.000-05:002008-12-10T10:04:00.000-05:00I happened across your blog today by accident but ...I happened across your blog today by accident but maybe there are no accidents? While reading your post I felt like I was reading about my own experiences and memories...My family storm started again yesterday as it does ever year near the holidays. Thankfully, I found your blog!! I feel not so alone and frankly empowered to stop getting so twisted over the "families" drama! Again, thank you for sharing....you helped me a lot today!! HeatherAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15519265.post-79009795412574592242008-11-14T16:36:00.000-05:002008-11-14T16:36:00.000-05:00I'm sorry, that totally sucks. Sounds like you fa...I'm sorry, that totally sucks. Sounds like you family is a tad jealous and selfish with you. My family is the same way, they never come to visit me, I always run over there. I've come to accept that's how it is, but split our time equally with my in-laws.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15519265.post-34292658271578324212008-11-13T17:59:00.000-05:002008-11-13T17:59:00.000-05:00My storm came thru and ruined everything. Can't b...My storm came thru and ruined everything. Can't believe these peope do this over and over. Why do we have to see relatives on holidays? I think I was ment to live alone. You would think just you inlaws could make you so miserable, not your mother and sister and brother. Depression hurts everyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15519265.post-84954082901076730622008-11-08T19:05:00.000-05:002008-11-08T19:05:00.000-05:00Gosh, Kellie, I read your post and thought that co...Gosh, Kellie, I read your post and thought that could have been my story a couple of weeks ago! I am having the same difficulty with my mother... not my sister though. It was horrible when I talked with her about it, but at least I did. She was not nice at all... I was shocked and surprised and hurt by it, but I told her what I thought. The tears flowed, the feelings aired out, and life goes on. It will be interesting to see how things are the next time I have to say, sorry we already have plans for that day when the next family event happens that we are busy. But I decided awhile ago that I was always the one to do what everyone else wanted despite my own feelings or needs, so I was going to start saying no basically. And I'm not feeling guilty over it... spent too much of my life already feeling guilty about things I had no control over and I wasn't going to be doing it anymore, especially when it wasn't my problem to begin with.<BR/><BR/>Stay strong and do what's best for you. There comes a time when you have to do things for yourself or else you are neglecting your own needs. You do your best and that's all anyone can ask. =)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15519265.post-5085018370355066202008-11-08T17:27:00.000-05:002008-11-08T17:27:00.000-05:00I know what you mean about a storm. It's been rou...I know what you mean about a storm. It's been rough with my two sisters for a couple of years. We'd all been a close family for many years, so it hurts. It may be my fault, I don't think so, I hash it over in my mind all the time. Finally I just take the advice of that radio psychologist Dr. Joy Brown and go with the 'stupid and cheerful' to get through it all. I stick to my guns and try not to feel guilty about things. I know that I try to do my best, and if that's not good enough then I don't know what else to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15519265.post-16048650532584312562008-11-08T16:20:00.000-05:002008-11-08T16:20:00.000-05:00Time to be upfront. Tell them something along the ...Time to be upfront. Tell them something along the lines, "I may be your child still but stop treating me like one. I can not please every single person. I am only one person, who can do so much. If it is YOUR choice to act this way, then I'd rather not deal with you right now until you make this change. This is how it's going to be and this is how it has to be."<BR/><BR/>I had to do this with my dad and haven't spoke with him since June. He'll give up by Christmas time... just because they are our parents, it doesn't mean they're right.anjihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03338423904024230539noreply@blogger.com